It sure would be heart breaking if you put forward your long kept desire of travelling to a certain place and your partner, husband or wife denies just because he or she doesn’t like travelling?
I won’t suggest you to change your life partner because I am sure you love him/her. To be honest to choose a vacation or a holiday above a your boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse is stupidity. Well, almost 🙂
Having said that, let me give you some extremely effective ideas on how to convince your partner, husband or wife to travel with you on a holiday. The duration of the travel – long or short wouldn’t matter once they have been persuaded to travel with you.
How to convince your partner, husband or wife to travel with you
Talk About Each Other’s Interests
You must talk to your partner, husband or wife about what are his or her interests. These inputs will help you decide which holiday suggestion to come up with first. You should also keep your travelling dreams before him or her. I am sure your partner wouldn’t be averse to your dreams since they love you. Without knowing about his or her interests you stand no chance of convincing your to travel with you.
Stretch His or Her Comfort Zone
Help your partner understand that travelling would change his or her mental status and it would give a relaxing peace afterwards. You need to convince him or her that travel is the only thing that makes us richer even if we have spent money on it. One sure shot way of persuading them to travel with you will be if you stretch their comfort zone – that is, if they are comfortable with one particular setting, choose the holiday in similar settings. For example, if your partner lived in a city with a beach, suggest a beach holiday.
Make Them Aware Of Cheap and Best Holiday Packages
The only way of finding out why your partner doesn’t want to travel is by talking about travel a lot. Sometimes it may be as simple a thing as the cost, which your partner may find prohibitive…but may never say so in open for the fear of being judged. This happens often when you aren’t married because at this stage the financial status is still hidden. If you even have a little inkling that you partner may be worried about the finances, explore travel desires that won’t burn a hole in the pocket. Show your spouse travelling options with discounts & offers on tour packages. If cost is the reason, it needs to come out and be discussed for you to have any chance of prevailing over your partner and convincing him or her to go on a holiday.
Talk Of Friends’ Recent Vacation Trip
Many people need an outside stimulus to wake up the sleeping interest inside them of them. Facebook newsfeeds of your friends’ vacations can act as a great stimuli. You can talk to your husband or wife about your friends who recently had a successful vacation to a very exotic place. This if used effectively can be a great way to convince your spouse to start traveling.
Take Your Spouse On A Romantic Date
It doesn’t matter where you are going to travel with, it’s who you are travelling with. A romantic date at a very exotic, well decorated restaurant would generate new vibe in your spouse’s inner self and he would be tempted to spend more time with you. Just drop a hint during the date and leave the rest to your partner. For all you know, he or she may decide to start travelling and plan the whole vacation for you.
Let An Image Tell a Story
As I said earlier, one needs an external stimulus to wake up the sleeping traveller within. Just because your partner isn’t interested in travelling with you doesn’t mean you cannot search for images of exotic places sitting right next to him or her. This act will be like the devil trying to tempt the sinner – be ready to beg, borrow, steal to brainwash your partner to start traveling with you.
Be Willing To Plan Everything
Chances are your husband or wife or boyfriend or girlfriend just isn’t into planning and this is the reason he/she hates travelling. This is the reason why you need to assure them that you aren’t opposed to handling all the travel planning involved for the vacation. Assuring him or her of this will be the single most important thing you can do to convince your spouse to start travelling with you.
Mitigate Your Partner’s Fears
Does your spouse have a fear of height, water or any other such fear? You need to find this out and also mitigate them before you even speak to them about travel. For instance, if he or she is scared of water a beach holiday is ruled out for the first time. Or if your husband or wife has a fear of heights, a hill station holiday wouldn’t make sense.
Let The First Travel Together Be To His Native Place
There will be lots of memories attached to one’s birthplace place where your spouse may have spent a lot of time. Plan a trip to the city he or she grew up in and re-kindle all his or her memories. Even if it won’t be an exciting trip for you, you may just open up the travel bug in your partner by first taking him or her on a comfortable vacation. This travel suggestion can almost always help you convince your partner for future travels together.
Start With Short Intra-City Trips
Start slow by travelling a bit within the city. Especially adventure travel or spiritual opportunities within the city which can act like an ice-breakers. I am recommending intra-city adventure or spiritual travel because these are the ones with the greatest pull which can help your spouse say: ‘Why don’t we do it one more time!”
Plan a Few Staycations
If your partner or spouse isn’t agreeing to the adventure or spiritual intra-city travelling, just recommend a staycation. A Staycation is where you decide to just walk into a nice hotel in your city itself and spend a few days. No travelling nothing….just not being at home. Simple. This is something your husband or wife can never refuse.
Plan Short Breaks On Weekends
Once you have done a few intra-city trips or stacations, you can start with weekend breaks. If you notice, all of us become tired by end of the week. That’s a great time to suggest doing nothing over the weekend. A small trip planned by you would give him or her a much-needed break and it would bring back the lost charm in the relationship as well. He or she would spend time in a different world far from their work life. And if you are lucky, eventually your spouse will get convinced to start travelling with you often, and further.
Plan A Step-By-Step Vacation
Once you had a 2 day weekend trip, you can extend that to a week, and then to two weeks, next to a month or two, and if everything goes well, you may move to another country for six months.
Update: From our readers we have understood that it is almost always the husband who is not willing to travel with the wife. And almost always it is the wife who ends up searching for information on “how to convince my husband to start travelling with me.” Well, let us assure you ladies, our suggestions mentioned above can do wonders. Do leave a comment or share our tips with your friends if they have helped you.